That's not exactly how I would have phrased it, but yes. He was/is a lawyer and its important to note that before I avoided him I befriended him in a flurry of emails and make outs right up until he avoided me, which he did until I relocated to the Big City and ran into him at a random neighborhood bar (because really, the Big City isn't that big) at which point we resumed our friendship and emails without the making out ... which was good because I was also sort of dating the teacher at that time. I think that those few weeks might have been the most complicated my love life has ever gotten ... wanting to date the lawyer, or at least have him want to date me, but actually dating the teacher and liking him as well. Eventually they both went away, first the lawyer, then the teacher, suddenly gone. With the teacher it made sense, but with the lawyer I was confused. It was an on/off switch that got flipped. Twice. We just stopped talking and never ran into each other again until I found myself on the same corner as him this weekend and pretty much ran into on coming traffic to avoid an encounter.
So I avoided. And then looked him up on our mutual alumni site and realized that he's married. I immediately wished that I had noticed the girl he was with and wondered how he managed to get married without me knowing. I mean I googled him at least once a year ... it seems it should have come up.
But it didn't. And I'm certainly not upset to learn he's married, just a bit surprised. And kind of I wonder why we couldn't have remained at least casual friends - the first time I ever rode the subway I was with him and he introduced me to one of my favorite burger joints ... but I guess the friend to friends that make out transition is easier than the friends that make out to casual friends transition. Which is troubling. Even though it makes sense.
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